15 things you should give up to be happy

How many of us are happy today? You who are reading this text, do you feel happy? If the answer is no, perhaps you are one of the vast majority who ignores one of the most terrifying truths about happiness: 95% of the time, she abandons you because you want her to. Yes, happiness is a matter of almost pure perspective. Understanding that in theory is easy, but in practice, my friend, it is something for “big people.” And when I say big, I mean big in spirit.

If you don't have your own idea of ​​how to achieve a happy life, the World Observer site provided you with a small generic list as far as possible – in view of the subjectivity inherent to the subject. Any resemblance to the basis of Buddhist philosophy is not mere coincidence. Check out:

15. Give up your need to always be right

There are so many of us who can't bear the thought of being wrong – we want to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing stress and pain, for ourselves and others. And if your desire is to be happy, it's not worth it. Every time you feel the “urgent” need to start a fight about who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself: “Would I rather be right or gentle?” What difference will it make? Is your ego really that big? Except in extreme cases, why should you spend time trying hard to prove yourself right?

14. Give up your need for control, be happy

You must be willing to give up the need to always be in control of everything that happens to you and around you - situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or strangers you just met on the street, let them be. Let everything and everyone be exactly what they are and you will see how this will make you feel better.

“I have seen several attempts to conquer and manipulate the world fail. The world belongs to the spirit, therefore, it should not be manipulated. “Whoever manipulates it, corrupts it, whoever tries to keep it, loses it.” – Lao Tzu

13. If you want to be happier, stop blaming others

Give up the desire to blame other people for what you have or what you don't have, for what you feel or don't feel. Stop giving this more power and start taking responsibility for your life.

12. If you want to be happier, give up self-destructive talk

How many people are suffering because of their negative, contaminated and repeatedly defeatist way of thinking? Don't believe everything your mind says – especially if it's somewhat pessimistic. You are better than that.

“The mind is a superb instrument if used correctly. Misused, however, it is very destructive.” – Eckhart Tolle

11. If you want to be happier, stop complaining and solve it

Give up the constant need to complain about the many, many, many things – people, moments, situations that make you unhappy or depressed. No one can make you unhappy, no situation can make you feel sad or worse, unless you allow it. It is not the situation that releases these feelings in you, but the way you decide to face it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking to be happy.

10. Forget the habit of criticizing

Give up the habit of criticizing things, events or people that are different from you. We are all different and yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we want to love and be loved and always be understood. We all want something and something is desired by all of us.

9. Give up your need to impress others

Stop trying so hard to be something you're not just to please others. It doesn't work that way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something you're not, the moment you throw away all the masks and accept who you really are, you will find that people are attracted to you, effortlessly.

8. To be happy, open your resistance to change

Put this in your head: the human body is programmed to resist change. Changing is followed by the process of adaptation. You can only reach another intellectual level if you constantly change. Adaptation and Change are stimuli focused on increasing intelligence and perception. Therefore, change is good. Change is what will help you get from A to B. Change will improve your life and the lives of those who live around you. Follow your happiness, accept change, do not resist them.

“Follow your happiness, And the universe will open doors for you, where there were only walls.” –Joseph Campbell

7. Forget about labels

Stop labeling people, things and situations that you don't understand as if they were strange or different and try to open your mind, little by little. Minds only work when they are open.

“The most extreme form of ignorance is when you reject something about which you know nothing” -Wayne Dyer

6. If you want to be happier, abandon your fears

Fear generally has two origins: ignorance and knowledge of possible events. The first case is solved with knowledge and the second case may or may not happen, nothing is certain, stop being afraid about what will happen and if you already know the possible problem, why not fix it before it appears?

“The only thing you have to fear is your own fear” – Franklin D. Roosevelt

5. Abandon the excuses that prevent you from being happy

Send them packing and tell them they're fired. That you don't need them anymore. We often limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of working to grow and improve ourselves and our lives, we stay stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kinds of excuses, apologies that 99.9% of the time aren't even real.

4. Bygones are bygones

I know, I know. It's hard. Especially when the past seems better than the present and the future seems so scary, but you have to keep in mind the fact that the present is all you have and all you are ever going to have. The past you are longing for – the past you now dream of – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop fooling yourself. Stay present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all, life is a journey and not a destination. See the future clearly, prepare yourself, but always stay present in the now.

3. Detachment from attachment

This is a concept that, for most of us, is very difficult to understand. And I have to confess that it was also for me – and still is – but it is not impossible. You improve every day with time and practice.

The moment you become detached from all things, (and this does not mean giving up your love for them – after all, love and attachment They have nothing to do with each other; attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, true love is pure, kind and generous, where there is love there can be no fear, and therefore, attachment and love cannot coexist), the will It calms down and you become tolerant, kind and serene... you reach a state that allows you to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

2. Stop living according to the expectations of others

There are too many people living a life that is not theirs. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, or their friends, enemies, teachers, governments and even according to what the media of communication believe that it is better for them. They ignore their inner voices, their intuitions. They are so busy pleasing everyone that they lose control of their own lives.

This causes them to forget what makes them happy, what they want and what they need – and one day they forget themselves too. You have your life – that life is now – you must live it, dominate it and above all not let the opinions of others distract you from your path.

1. Let go of limiting beliefs about who you can or cannot be, about what is possible and what is impossible.

From now on, your restrictive beliefs are not allowed to leave you stranded in the wrong place. Open your wings, fly and BE HAPPY.EcoPortal.net